Disassociation: The Third Key Element of Change

(Part 3 of 4)

In my previous blogs, I mentioned the first two key elements of change: AWARENESS and UNDERSTANDING.

Let's proceed to the third key element of change...

"Once you realize that your way of thinking isn’t you, you can separate yourself from it and choose in the present whether to keep it or let it go—based on who you are today, and where you want to be tomorrow. You can observe this way of thinking and see it for what it is, a “file” of information that was stored in your mind a long, long time ago and may not hold any truth or value for you anymore," T. Harv Eker added.

He called this process as DISASSOCIATION.

Disassociation must answer the following questions:

1. Can you see that these thoughts represent only what you learned and are not part of your anatomy and not who you are? 

2. Can you see that you have a choice in the present moment to be different? 

Disassociation would be easy once you were able to become fully aware of your verbal programming and be able to understanding how that kind of programming  affects your life. No one consults a doctor if a person is convinced that he doesn't need one even the symptoms of his "sickness" are pretty obvious. If you are buried in debt or if your relationship stinks then that's the time you've got to consult the right person who can help rectify your problem area. You can only do so if you realize that whatever is happening to you right now is totally and completely separate from whom you really are. Failing means that you are not a failure, it only means that you are not yet succeeded. 

In my case, I was able to disassociate that my verbal programming i.e. "I'm the one who is responsible for the financial destiny of my family" represents only of what I learned and not exactly the way I wanted to be. And I have the choice in the present to be different. I didn't say that I will stop helping my family financially, what I'm saying is, I have my own life to be taken care of and my family can live and survive without me---that's my disassociation.

You have the power to be in command of your life. You can choose to be a victim forever--you can stay poor, abused, out-of-place in the world you live in, or you can be a victor and choose to be in-charge of your life.

The last key element of change: RECONDITIONING can be found on my next blog.

Reprogramming Your Money Blueprint

(Part 2 of 4)

Are you programmed to fail?

 Or are you programmed to succeed?

Of course, your answer would highly depend on your "programming" or influences. Remember, your "programming" can be classified as verbal programming, modeling and specific incident.

T. Harv Eker in his book "Secrets of the Millionaires Mind" enumerates programming as:

1. Verbal programming-"What did you hear when you are young?"

2. Modeling - "What did you see when you are young?"

3. Specific incident - "What did you experience when you are young?"

Let's say that your brain is the CPU of your personal computer. Human brains, like yours are also programmable same as your personal computer. Whether you think you are programmed to fail or to succeed depends on the program that is being installed in your CPU while you are young.

In my previous blog, I discussed the first key element to change your Verbal Programming: Awareness

The second key element: UNDERSTANDING.

T. Harv Eker says, "By understanding where your "way of thinking" originates, you can recognize that it has to come from outside of you."

I mentioned what was my verbal programming in my previous blog Preludeto Financial Freedom: Know Your Money Blueprint. Now that I am already AWARE, the next thing to do is to UNDERSTAND how this verbal programming has affected me. Now it's time for you to understand your own verbal programming too. Get back to your list of verbal programming and I will help you to understand them.

I was introduced to responsibilities at the age of 10.But prior to that stage, I would say, my family used to live a comfortable life. Because that time my father works in a factory, my mom works as a dressmaker while my eldest brother works as a family driver. In short, we have more than enough for everything. But when my father got sick because of Tuberculosis, we have to leave the city life and have to transfer to the province, not only to follow the doctor's advice for my father's health but also due to financial difficulties. To make it worst, my eldest brother went astray because of drugs. My father's immediate successor has gone A.W.O.L! Believe me, living in the city without money is a horrible nightmare.

More drama of my life unfolds when we transferred to the province. When my father's health condition improves, mom has to leave for work as household helper in the nearby town for us to survive. My sister stopped studying and got to work as well. I do almost literally all the household chores for me and for my dad: cooking, washing, cleaning, and even going to the market. Honestly, I earned my Home Economics degree unknowingly. I did it in the name of love and mission. 

Since "I am the one" programmed to elevate my family from poverty, I can't afford to be a failure. True enough, I was an honor student and became instant celebrity in our place. My neighbors also contributed to my verbal programming. For them, I am the "most responsible" son in the whole wide world...and that words become flesh and my reality. When my sister settled down, my programming continues--I'm still "the one". 

To prove my claim, for those who doesn't know me personally, I have something to confess—I just married last January, this year. Why? For sure, you can answer that question now.

By UNDERSTANDING, I was able to answer the million-dollar questions in my mind. Everything made sense to me now...

   I stayed single for so long because my mission that I am "programmed" to accomplish is not yet a reality.  

   I stayed single for so long because until now my family is not yet financially-free.

   I stayed single for so long because getting married is a hindrance to my mission. And to fail in my mission is not an option.

"Your thoughts originate from the "files of information" you have in the storage cabinet of your mind. So where does this information comes from? It comes from your past programming. That's right, your past conditioning determines every thought that bubbles up in your mind. That's why it's referred to as the conditioned mind," T. Harv Eker explains.

So, I'm done with the understanding of my own verbal programming, how about yours?

Let me remind you. You cannot proceed to the third key element to change your verbal programming unless you fully understand how your programming affects your life.

On my next blogs, I'll show you how to make DISASSOCIATION and how to RECONDITION your programming.

P.S. You can also apply the first two key elements in other aspect of your life. You'll be amazed.

Prelude To Financial Freedom: Know Your Money Blueprint

(Part 1 of 4)

"Each of us has a personal and success money blueprint already embedded in our subconscious mind. And this blueprint more than anything and everything else combined will determine your financial destiny," says T. Harv Eker in his book "Secrets of the Millionaires Mind".

"Really?", this is my initial reaction when I read the part one of his book. For sure I'll get more "aha" if  I will not stop reading the book because the truth is there's more on the next pages.

He said also, that like the blue print for the house, our money blueprint is simply our preset program or way of being in relation to money.

To illustrate, T. Harv Eker uses the Process of Manifestation--the formula that is being used as foundation for teachings by many respected teachers in the field of human potential.

The formula goes like this: Thoughts > Feelings > Actions >Results

To simplify, the formula explains that our thoughts lead to feelings, our feelings lead to actions and our actions lead to results.

Let's apply this formula.

Imagine that your life is recorded in a DVD. Insert that DVD in the player, press rewind. Focus on the part when you are already aware of the things around you. Let us go inside your house and remember your family, especially your parents.

As a child, probably you heard your parents saying these things: "money is the root of all evil", "rich people are greedy", "rich people are criminals", "you can't be rich and spiritual", "money doesn't buy happiness", "money talks", "not everyone can be rich", "there is never enough"...and so on. Probably you have your own dialogue to share.

Whatever we heard about money, whether good or bad are called Verbal Programming.

Now, list down all your Verbal Programming.

When I did this activity, I found out why I'm so much attached with family responsibilities and almost forgot that I have a life of my own.

The answer: because I had this programming that "I am the one" who can elevate my family from poverty.

This programming affects most of my decisions. I keep telling myself that my family needs me, that they can't live without me, that I can't afford to be selfish even I have nothing to give. My verbal programming gave me my thought that "I am the one". My feeling of compassion to my family leads to my action of helping them no matter what. My action of keeping myself in the forefront of responsibilities leads me to my result: I'm dead broke. That’s me a years ago. Now, I no longer consider myself a "dead broke".

In order for us to change our Verbal Programming, we need to be aware. AWARENESS is the first key element of changing our Verbal Programming. T. Harv Eker says, "You can't change something unless you know it exists".

By the way, I was introduced to T. Harv Eker, when I joined  Online Mentoring where I met more mentors.

On my next blog, I'll share with you the second key element of change: UNDERSTANDING.